Of all the questions that expectant parents may have, the subject of sexuality during pregnancy is still relatively rarely discussed. And yet, it's a subject that deserves to be addressed without taboos to deconstruct certain preconceived ideas and better experience the changes associated with this period. At Biostime, we answer your "Hows" and "Whys" about sexuality and pregnancy, without jargon! #NoTaboo
Can you have sex while pregnant?
The answer is yes! Sexuality and pregnancy are completely compatible, as long as your pregnancy is progressing normally and there are no medical contraindications: that is, in the majority of cases! Contrary to some beliefs that still persist, sex during pregnancy poses no risk to the future baby. Rest assured: you are not increasing the risk of miscarriage or premature delivery. And you are not going to hurt your baby either. On the contrary, the well-being you will feel after making love will be beneficial for him! It is entirely possible to continue having sex until the end of the pregnancy, if you wish and there is nothing medically prohibiting it.
If you have any doubts, do not hesitate to talk to your gynecologist or midwife who will be able to advise you on sexuality during your pregnancy as well as on the sports you can practice while pregnant .
Why can libido decrease during pregnancy?
Libido is sometimes put to the test during pregnancy! Your sexual desire will certainly be a roller coaster for 9 months, for several reasons: hormonal upheavals, physical changes, minor pregnancy discomforts... Obviously, the evolution of libido is specific to each pregnant woman, but you should know that it can be negatively affected even if nothing is irreversible!(1)
1st trimester of pregnancy
The first three months of pregnancy are often synonymous with fatigue, nausea, and other minor discomforts, which can lower libido. But here again, let's not generalize: some women will experience no symptoms to disrupt their sexual desire.
2nd trimester of pregnancy
It's often said that the second trimester is the time of fulfillment! The physical discomforts of the first few months are over, the belly is rounding slightly, and a surge of blood in the pelvic area can intensify sexual desire. This is generally the time of pregnancy when a pregnant woman's libido is at its peak. But for some women, the changing body can be difficult to accept in intimacy and can lower desire.
3rd trimester of pregnancy
With childbirth approaching, sexual activity tends to decrease: the stomach is heavy, breath is shorter, fatigue is more present, certain positions become complicated... It's time to focus on tenderness and cuddles!
The most important thing is to communicate well with your partner, because pregnancy can also disrupt their libido. Express your desires, your fears, what you like and don't like... In short, listen to each other's desires as a couple!
What positions should I adopt during pregnancy?
The choice of sexual positions depends on both the couple's desires and the pregnant woman's physical changes. Try to find positions that are comfortable for both of you and that don't crush the mother-to-be's belly. Some positions will be suitable in the first trimester, but will become uncomfortable in the second. And remember, sex isn't just about penetration, so now's the time to be imaginative and explore desire in new ways!
And for you, how is it going?
Do you have any questions about sexuality during pregnancy? Do you talk about it in your relationship? Have you noticed any changes? Share your stories at contact@biostime.fr or via DM on Instagram @biostimefr to help each other and break down taboos about sexuality and pregnancy!
Source :
(1) Serati M. et al. J Sex Med 2010;7(8):2782-90.